This Be The Verse
They fuck you up, your mum and Dad,
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra just for you!
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands misery on to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself!.......Philip Larkin
I don't any other poem has put into words exactly how I feel quite like this one. This poem just plays in my head whenever someone asks me "Are you going to have kids?....Why not?" Oh I don't know, maybe because I don't want any. And why is it that no one can seem to understand that? Not everyone wants to have children.
Myself personally, I like to be able to go tromping through cemeteries, work on my art, stay out late when I want, take a last minuet wine tasting trip, do whatever, without having to find a sitter to pack 30 pounds of crap for the diaper bag.
I am a selfish person, but at least I recognize that and don't think "Oh my life will be the same, I'll just have a kid with me" or think that dumping my kid with some one else every time I get the chance is being a good parent. I hate it when I hear people say "I just want to get away or I'm so tired of dealing with my kid right now". I feel that you brought that kid into the world, and now your life is 2nd place because you chose to give life to a child. Being a parent is a 24/7 365 day job. You don't get to check out because you want time to yourself.
I had to take care of my younger sisters all my life and now that they are old enough to care for themselves, why would I want to start that all over again? I think I have paid my dues. Besides why would I want to bring someone into life that might be as rotten as me? I'm screwed up enough without passing that on to someone else. So for all you breeders out there, go for you, glad you are happy, hope you are a great parent, but leave me out of this ok?